What is Really Happening Behind the Silence You know the moment, your partner says something sharp, or tearful, or simply unexpected. And before you’ve decided how to respond, something in you has already shut the door. You go quiet, you stare at your phone, you find a reason to be in the garage. From the outside, it can look like you don’t care. From the inside, it often feels like the opposite: you care, you just don’t know what to say, and saying the wrong thing feels wor